The greatest firmness is the greatest mercy.
Two times is a pattern. If a person in your life does/says something you cannot stand; decide if you can just put up with it. If not, they should not be a part of your life.
Maybe you don't love them that much, if this little thing is a deal breaker. Maybe it's not little but really non-negotiable, like infidelity, physical abuse, drugs.
Either way, "giving them a chance" involves chance, which is gambling. Gambling some months or even years of your time on Earth, and some other, truly great opportunities. Maybe, maybe, maybe -- knock on wood -- they will change. Actually, they won't, but maybe-maybe-maybe. In a year or two. Or in ten. Your life, though is evaporating right now.
So, either shut up and put up with it, because you need them as they are. Or if you cannot, then just tell them to see you when they are a different person.
This may be harsh on on them -- and on you -- but short-term pain is better than a major life disaster.
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